Elia Rita7 days agoI’m feeling really overwhelmed and could use some advice. I (32F) have a 7-month-old baby, and my husband (42M) and I have been struggling with a lot of things lately. I exclusively nurse our baby after some early feeding challenges, and I’ve been dealing with some personal health issues that make things even more difficult. Since my baby was born, I’ve had skin rashes that turned out to be something more serious than I initially thought. Managing these issues, especially with my hands, has been tough since I’m the primary caregiver for our baby, and I need my hands for everything. Our routine has been that I’m mostly at home with the baby full-time while my husband works. I’ve been really struggling with exhaustion. The baby wakes up early, and I often nurse him and then get a brief window of time to rest while he’s with his dad. That short time in the morning is my only chance to get some sleep and recharge for the rest of the day, especially after a long night of caring for the baby. But I’m not getting the emotional support I need from my husband, and it’s really starting to affect me. This morning, things took a turn. I was extremely tired after a long night and needed that short time to rest. Instead of letting me sleep, my husband insisted I wake up, and when I didn’t immediately, he poured cold water on my face while I was asleep. I was half-asleep, and it completely startled me. This triggered a fight, and we ended up arguing about it. I was so shaken by it all that I suggested we cancel the meal prep service we had hired for the day, since I didn’t feel emotionally capable of having a stranger in the house while we were fighting. My husband got furious and said, “No, she’s fired if you cancel her! You can starve!” He also accused me of “faking” being asleep and dismissed how I was really feeling. This behavior has been happening for a while now. I’ve been asking my husband for emotional support for months, but all I get in return is invalidation and dismissal. I feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells, and it’s becoming too much for me. I don’t know who to turn to for support, and I’m just so exhausted, both physically and emotionally. I don’t know what to do at this point. I need help and guidance on how to address this situation, especially because I’ve tried to communicate my needs to my husband, but nothing seems to change. Any advice would be really appreciated.1278
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