Kyson Averill7 days agoI'm divorced with two kids from my first marriage. My current wife was married in her twenties to her high school sweetheart, and they had a child together. Tragically, her first husband passed away from an illness when he was 30, while they were still married. Together, we now have one child as well. Our relationship started off great, but over time it’s become rocky, with ups and downs. While we both love each other, there’s a lot of resentment between us. I feel like she puts minimal effort into the relationship. She has extreme OCD tendencies with cleanliness—far beyond what’s necessary—and spends excessive time cleaning, organizing, and scrolling on social media. She only engages with me when it’s about making an "executive decision" or discussing family matters. We rarely do anything together as a couple. If we’re not at family or kids' events, we’re usually just sitting at home watching a movie with our youngest child between us. Physical intimacy is almost non-existent—we rarely kiss, hug, or have sex. For her, intimacy seems to mean using her vibrator while I take care of myself. I've worked hard to stay in shape and remain attractive for her, but it feels like it doesn’t matter. Initially, she was great with my kids, but as they’ve grown into their teenage years, she’s distanced herself and frequently complains about them without saying anything positive. My kids are high achievers academically and in extracurricular activities, and they’ve never been in trouble. I’ve always treated her daughter as my own, but recently, I’ve started to distance myself because of how she treats my kids. I’ve been the sole provider, allowing her to stay home, and I genuinely don’t want another divorce at this stage in my life. However, my patience is running thin. I still love her, but the way I love her now feels different from how it was in the past. TL;DR How can I make this marriage tolerable or improve it? Are there solutions, or has it reached the point of no return? Any advice would be appreciated.2104
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