Lamar Ryker5 days agoFeeling uneasy about my ex’s (20M) behavior—how should I (19F)address it? We broke up in October which I thought was mutual at the time. We stayed friends but I’ve noticed that his behaviour has hardly changed since. He’ll openly flirt with me or try to get me drunk if we’re alone together and this makes me uncomfortable, especially if we’re with friends. Recently I’ve realised that he checks my social media accounts several times a day. He “jokes” about songs I listened to once, referenced a title of my pinterest board randomly in conversation once and asks about people I choose to keep on my close friends list. I turned on analytics for my pinterest posts and I’m 99% convinced that he’s viewing my posts multiple times a day. He posts all of our hangouts online and puts on breakup/pining music when we’re together. For example, he stayed completely silent and serious when “Casual” by Chappell Roan played the other day. He’s a gorgeous, funny and intelligent person and has so much potential. I want to meet new people but I feel very conscious of his presence in my life, and I don’t want him to react badly if i were to meet someone new. Should I set new boundaries with him? He’s a great person but if this continues I don’t think we can stay friends. TL;DR: Broke up with my ex last year but his behavior hasn’t changed much—he compliments me, checks my social media obsessively, and makes me uncomfortable. I value our friendship but I might need to set boundaries to be able to move on. How should I handle this?1611
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