Cash Briella5 days agoHi, I'm a foreigner married to a Dutch man. We’ve been married for almost two years, and during this time, I’ve been made to feel isolated, controlled, and degraded. I haven't even started language school, despite wanting to, because my husband constantly disorients me and undermines my efforts. He doesn’t want me to work, makes harsh comments about how I dress, and has contributed to me losing a lot of weight due to stress and constant emotional pain. I try so hard to avoid his complaints and make him happy, but nothing is ever enough. He is around me all the time, being overly touchy and gropey, even when I don’t want it. The only time he’s not physically near me is when he’s at work, but he still has a ring camera that tracks when I leave the house. I don’t have money of my own and am forced to ask for basic necessities like sanitary towels. When he comes home, he criticizes me about dinner and demands to know what I’ve been doing all day. I do everything—cook, clean, take care of the house, even treat his infections—but he still complains that I do nothing. He violates my privacy constantly, checking my phone and asking what I'm doing when I go to the bathroom or when I’m on the phone. I don’t have any friends, and I feel utterly alone in this environment. I brought my daughter back from my country, and his behavior has only gotten worse. Now he even wants to follow her when she showers or uses the bathroom, claiming that in Europe, we should be more “free.” He complains that I haven’t taught her how to clean herself properly, even though I am consistently training her. If I had the financial means, I would leave him, but I have nothing. I feel trapped, dehumanized, and like a shadow of the independent, happy person I once was. My skin is breaking out from the stress, and I feel lost. Worst of all, he told me to tell my daughter that he is not her father. I’m scared for her well-being and safety. I don’t know where to turn, but I cannot keep living like this. I need help for both me and my daughter. I can’t take the emotional abuse anymore, day or night. Please, any guidance or support would be deeply appreciated.2427
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