Jackson Annalise5 days agoMy partner (31F) and I (28F) have been together for two and a half years, and we've been engaged since August. Our relationship has been amazing overall, but there's a significant issue involving her parents, and it's been escalating over the past few months. They have always had a complicated relationship with her, but it seems to worsen whenever she starts a new relationship. This pattern is evident in both her past relationships and ours. A big point of tension recently has been our wedding plans. After a disagreement with her mom about the location of the wedding, they didn't speak for a few months, and we were forced to change the wedding location to something closer to her family. Honestly, it feels like they "won" this argument, and I can't help but feel frustrated and angry about it. Adding to this, we had planned for my partner to spend Christmas with my family, but when we visited her family for New Year's, we were completely ignored. No one spoke to us until the evening when alcohol was involved, which was uncomfortable. My question is, how do I continue in a relationship where my partner's parents treat both of us poorly, yet my partner expects me to still participate in family events? Is it unreasonable for me to ask to not be included in group gatherings or family events with her parents? I don't want her to cut them off, but I simply don't want to put myself in situations where I'm mistreated. Is it fair to request this, or am I being unreasonable? I'm trying to figure out how to move forward, but it's hard to deal with the stress from her family, especially with the wedding coming up.1448
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